Courage

Courage. 
I guess all of us need courage to face up with a lot of things. Things that are unavoidable , things that can't be denied , things that will remain to haunt us until we decide to face it. I really understand why people choose to run away from problems and troubles. It's not because they don't know how to solve it , but rather because they are afraid to face it. 

It's easier said than done. Yes I have told people how to stand up for who they are and to face their doubts with courage . I guess many of us have comforted friends with worries and uncertainties , but when we find ourselves in the exact same situation , we realize it isn't easy after all. 

Why ? We are all humans and we tend to get our emotions and feelings involved very easily. It's not easy to say that we can go ahead with our decisions despite knowing that we will hurt someone's feelings. Most importantly , we are afraid to get hurt. We are afraid that we would not be able to accept the outcome , we are worried that things will not turn out to be how we wanted it to. We are scared that we will only have ourselves to deal with the outcome.

Most of the time , reality is harsh and It is hard for many of us to accept . It is not because we don't know how to but , we don't want to . 

For example , a woman found out that her husband is having an extramarital affair . She sure knows that she has many solutions . She can choose to divorce with her husband or to forgive him (That being the most common solutions ) . However , she will have to consider how her decision will affect her , her loved ones and people around her . She will have to deal with the consequences of her decision , no matter which solution she chose . Thus , it is not that she do not know how to solve it , but most of the time , she will have to muster her courage to accept the devastating reality , prepare herself for the consequences . Most importantly , she will have to face the problem with courage .

Of course , this is a simplified example and is somehow limited because of my experience (mainly from shows and dramas) . 

This sure sounds gloomy and troubling but I am not. It is just some of my thoughts.