Relationship. Crushes . Love.
Honestly , I think we are still rather not too mature for this (people around my age) . Yes 16 is not too young though, but i guess people around this age are still unable to be committed to such a huge responsibility. Its not that I am skeptical about steady relationships around my age . I had a fair share of learning from all these few years back. Of course you will learn to love someone more, or probably be more insightful in managing relationships with the opposite sex . Still, I feel that it is not really an appropriate period of our life to be entangled with all these relationship stuffs.
Why?
We are still growing up. Our mindset of relationship is just "loving each other " . As long as you love me and so far as I love you, we can work out. When you are around my age, or probably even younger, do you even ponder so much before getting into a relationship? Some of us just feel like getting into one because all others are into it. Its like, " hey cmon, its cool and its a trend now, I must try it " . You just want to have someone who can text you 24/7. You just want to have someone to be called your " stead " . Because its cool.
What do we look for in relationship?
Undoubtedly, most of it are looks and probably personality. Do we look further than that? Do we consider how our future is gonna be like when we are with him/her?
Often, our age reflect our slight disability to discern the relevance of certain issues in relationships. In fact, some of us just spend way too much time in a relationship and neglect all others that are around us . As said, its about commitment and responsibility. Can you really have a fruitful relationship with the opposite sex when you are truely lacking of experience ? All that we engage in is puppy love. They get together. They break. They got upset. They got over being upset. And they got into a new relationship again. Its just like a cycle. I mean, it is. Unless you have decided to leave this important thing to a later part of your life. I know it may seem interesting. Many get into relationship because of curiosity.
We seldom consider the repercussions that we might suffer when we get into relationships at such a young age.
Heartbreaks. There is definitely heartbreak during an end of r/s. It might be due to betrayal , lack of commitment and loyalty . Whatever it is, you got hurt. And your perception towards relationship changes and you start to realise it isin't that beautiful after all. I did. And you start assuming that all guys are jerks / all girls are bitches just because you didnt work out with one guy/girl in the whole wide world. Its not ridiculous to have this thinking though. Such experiences are really daunting and it discourage you from getting into serious relationship in the future just because the one in your teenage year didn't work.
Both genders at this age are still not mature enough to handle some r/s problems. We are still struggling to treat people right, and now we are talking about true love.
Ok I think I am having a rather negative view towards young relationships NOW . But in all I still can conclude I am quite neutral. I dont really discourage people from getting into first relationship ! Not too much about the fun , but yes YOLO. Some things ought to be tried out when you are younger. I'd rather regret doing it than regret not doing it. BUT, there is a fine line between bgr and personal relations with all others and studies . Dont sink too deep into it and get all the heartbreaks that shouldnt be a part of your teenage years . Learn as you love, because such things wouldn't last forever. You wouldn't be young forever.
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